Refusal To Acceptance
Loss, as the title explains, ignites the grieving process which is the transition of refusing loss to accepting it. It can also be seen as the first state of grief, where people refuse to accept what was lost.
Loss can take many forms, but it can only apply to certain people who have their own experiences with what they’ve lost. How people tend to cope with loss determines how they’ll handle similar situations in the future.
If someone is willing to accept that loss is inevitable and must move on from that, loss will affect them less. Compared to denying that something’s wrong, a person can only deny so many things, and they’ll have to face the truth eventually, not really creating another way out of denial.
When people lose something, they fear to lose anything else, usually becoming paranoid at the thought that anything bad could happen at any given moment to anything a person cares for. This fear is built off the experience that comes with loss.
That feeling of defeat, a melancholy tone to everything around you, a less vibrant experience towards everything in life. Reaching a low that one must climb out of on their own, because it’s all a mental game at that point.
Grief and loss are almost synonymous to each other, where you have to lose in order to grieve. The grieving process is complicated but also leads to acceptance in the end, leaving no way to stick to the past.
With how much goes on in life, it’s almost impossible to stay in the past. So loss can’t be bound onto a person forever, and it becomes another event with its long lasting effects. But loss itself is never impossible, but people must prepare themselves for how to deal with it when it comes.
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Originally, I was going to do Blog #13 on loss but changed it at the last minute. Some of the points you mentioned were things I did not think about, for example, fear of loss as well as being paranoid. Now that you’ve mentioned those things, I can say I relate to both, especially being paranoid. I hate that the many forms of loss can happen at any moment, sometimes unexpectedly. You also mentioned a feeling of defeat, and I often feel that way too. There are times when I feel that I am not capable of handling any sort of loss; it feels that I am stuck in an unjust world. I hate that I can’t stop time and that I can’t fix everything. But I always have to remind myself that there are meaningful activities I can do to cope with the unfairness of life, because like you said, we shouldn’t be living in the past. We must learn to overcome feelings of loss.
ReplyDeleteDeath is always hard to move from, but like all things it should eventually go away as well. Soon the hole that person leaves absent becomes a new normal. Yet sometimes it’s hard to feel like it’s normal in any way, like your mind is refusing to make a new routine. You perfectly summed up the whole difficulty of grieving as you should move on, you know that, everyone else knows that, it should just happen yet in certain cases it feels as if the moment overstays its welcome.
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