Second Guessing, Again, and Again
Still stuck on doing something? DOUBT you’ll get it done on time or have the motivation to do it? How can someone have doubt?
To put it simply, it’s like letting yourself fail before you let yourself start. Telling yourself that you could make this decision now to quit so you don’t have to face the embarrassment of failing in the future.
A longer explanation of doubt involves the process of overthinking. It’s nice to strategize how you want to do things in life, but overthinking means thinking about the minimal things that could mean a lot to you and how things would progress after that, mainly affecting you and your future.
There’s a lot of doubt in the people around you as well. You don’t know it because they’re probably overthinking the simplest things as well, like starting a conversation, wondering things like, “What if they don’t want to talk?”, “How can I keep the conversation going?”, “What do I gain from talking to this person?” or “What if now’s not a good time to talk to them?”
High school in my eyes will always be about how people try to build a positive image for themself so no one can really hate them. Because they doubt, they doubt that anyone thinks of them as any good.
But we don’t know that. We don’t know how everyone feels about one another, and the absence of an answer will create more doubt in a person’s mind, doubt that’ll carry on to other things, like public presentations. No matter how big the audience, or how important the topic you’re presenting, people will begin to imagine the worst possible outcome and consider it more probable than the best outcome they can think of at that moment.
This builds missed opportunities for people, as they don’t allow themselves to experience the mistakes and embarrassment for themselves, instead of in their head. In the absence of communication, people will spend most of their time in their own minds, becoming comfortable with how they think of the world around them, mashing fantasy and reality.
That’s why it’s best to allow yourself to do some things normally, without an overly complicated plan. Instead, just a simple one that can be improvised along the way. Something that doesn’t require a lot of thinking. Because a person who thinks a lot is a smart person, but they’re also a very cautious person, usually cautious about the wrong things.
I myself doubt a lot, also for the wrong reasons as well, though you probably didn’t know that because you already have your own image of me, but here I am, shaping your image of what you think about me, and I won’t know how I’ll get viewed for it.
Almost makes me doubt whether to mention or write about this, but I don’t care as much. Choosing what to care about and how to move on past that can allow you to doubt less. Building confidence in yourself is one way to help as doubt can also be connected to self-esteem issues. Conformity in what you do normally can allow you to be at your best, perform at your best.
Moral? Don’t care about every little thing so much, but that’s up to interpretation, and I wonder how this’ll be interpreted, but I don’t have to worry since it’s not in my control., best I can do is hope I actually wrote something good enough to deserve a good interpretation.
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This was a powerful and compelling blog post. Not only did you mention ways that people may doubt themselves, but you also offered solutions on how to overcome it. I can for sure relate to having doubt when it comes to conversations; the thoughts you mentioned are the thoughts I often have. You’re right when you say that we don’t often have knowledge of other people’s emotions and feelings, and you’re also right when you say that doubt can make us miss out on plenty of great opportunities. Your post’s very thorough and accurate, I love it!
ReplyDeleteThis blog was a pretty unique one as you told the audience the background about doubt and then provide rhetorical questions that you would then later answer in the blog. The way that you wrote about this topic makes it look like you have experienced doubt plenty of times and had learned from it.
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